affability

Affability comes from latin affabilĭtas and refers to the affable quality (nice, soft in the deal, sweet). For example. "I was very happy to visit Mr. Perkins, he is a man of great affability", "What is the reason for such affability? I suspect you want to ask me for something ", "I do not know if he is a bad person, but surely he is not characterized by his affability".

Friendliness, therefore, can be associated with amiability, the courtesy and the cordiality. When a person he is affable, shows sympathy, simplicity, frankness and kindness in his social relationships The affable subject, when receiving a visitor, is attentive, offers something to drink and tries to make the visitor feel comfortable.

The opposite of friendliness is antipathy wave discourtesy. In this case, the individual in question has a sparse, dry and cold behavior.

In addition to all of the above, we could establish that when a person wants to improve their level of affability, what they have to do is follow these steps “toe-to-toe”:
• You should strive to be more careful in dealing with others.
• You must learn not to order without any reason or logic.
• It should be someone natural and should encourage anyone to establish close and easy communication with her.

For the religion, affability is a virtue that inclines the man to say and do what contributes to making social life more pleasant. It is not the same to live and deal with a personable person than with another who does not show courtesy and respect.

Santo Tomás is one of the religious figures that more studies and works carried out regarding the term affability. Specifically, he undertook an extensive writing, included within the famous “Speech from Summa2, where he came to make clear several fundamental questions about this virtue:
• It can be used as a synonym for friendship.
• Every wise person must have the gift of affability, with which he will make life much more pleasant for everyone with whom he lives. However, sometimes, to avoid an evil and even if it is not misunderstood by the rest of the citizens, it must establish strong laws and regulations.
• It can be established that affability is in relation to justice, since both must allow any individual to behave with the rest in the best possible way.
• Mood, lack of education, disorder, rudeness or selfishness are opposite contrary to the quality of being personable.
Likewise, Santo Tomás makes clear in his work that affability also has two vices. On the one hand, there would be what would be the exaggerated flattery and on the other, the severity taken to its maximum expression.

A polite greeting or a kind comment can make someone else's day brighter. Affability is also associated with respect for the current order since it allows us to express truths that, in another tone, would cause problems and confrontations. A man can kindly ask his neighbor to lower the volume of the television without the need for aggression or violence and without disturbing the peaceful coexistence; Another, on the other hand, may get into a pointless discussion due to his lack of affability.